DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE a great relationship with my godson but my partner is really jealous.
I fear I’ll be forced to choose between them.
The boy is my best female friend’s child, and I love him as if he were my own. I don’t have my own kids yet.
His dad isn’t around a lot so I’m a father figure.
I’m 39 and my partner is 34. We got together five years ago, and she knew about my godson, now eight, from the beginning.
But lately she’s started complaining about the time I spend with him, and the money I spend on him.
We’ve been having a lot of arguments.
She thinks I put him first and that she should be my priority.
I know if it came down to it, I’d choose him over her. But I do love her.
Am I being unfair? Or does it mean this relationship isn’t working?
Get in touch with Deidre
Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours on weekdays.
DEIDRE SAYS: It’s great you have a close relationship with your godson – but if he does come before her, then it’s understandable why she is feeling a bit miffed.
Could you make a regular time to see your godson, so she knows where she stands.
Good male role models are particularly important for young boys, especially as they move towards their teens, so it’s great that you value the relationship.
My support pack, Looking After Your Relationship, should help.
My support pack on Counseling will tell you more about this.
Make it clear you want to bring up your son in a strong family unit and won’t do anything to hurt him again.