None of my partner’s friends want to join us in a threesome

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my partner agreed to try a threesome with one of her female friends, I was excited. But now I’m frustrated because none of her friends want to get involved.

I’m 35 and she’s 32. We’ve been together for nine years.

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Our sex life is good but routine, and it could do with a boost of excitement.

I’ve always fantasized about a three-way, so when we discussed it and she said she’d try it, it was a huge turn on.

She asked a few of her best mates if they’d join us, but they all said ‘no’. One of them laughed and another was offended.

Now I’ve suggested finding a stranger to join us instead, but she isn’t sure. I think she’s starting to have second thoughts.

I can’t get this out of my head now, so I feel we have to try it.

DEIDRE SAYS: Unless you are both 100 percent sure about this, it would be wiser to hold off.

While threesomes sound like fun, they’re fraught with danger, as emotions and jealousy come into play.

Fantasies rarely play out the way we imagine them. My support pack, Threesomes, will explain more.

Focus on sexual experimentation with your partner, rather than involving another person.