Chemical submission: waiting to be drunk for sex is rape

When I was studying at university, a pair of my classmates, always laughing, told how on some weekends at six in the morning they went to the door of a nightclub in Pamplona to see what was going on.

Yes, let’s see what happened. What they wanted to see, of course, was a girl who was drunk and who was easy to carry and take home, while as fresh as lettuce, she just woke up. I never knew if they really did it or if it was just a fantasy they didn’t finish doing. Anyway, she hung out with me because it bothered me so much despite the fact that he smiled and shook his head like “what a couple”. You stuck with me, above all, because I said at the time that they were disgusting, but now I know what to call them: rapists.

From the same circle of people from the university there were some voices that denied me, when I started collaborating with Beccara magazine, that patriarchy existed. Previously. Well, not only does it exist, but this disgusting and transgressive culture is still as welcome as it is today too. That culture that agrees to submit to them – ours – without relying on our opinion. We do not consider ourselves equal. Among them are colleagues who are cracks. We others, subordinates, the game is complementary. Hence the advice among the blocks to cheat on their women who do not dare to have an open relationship with them, because of course this means negotiation and surrender. Hence he advised the shop owners not to arrest their wives, and to make it easy for us to eat without blinking, and their consequences for those who eat.

And from here also what appeared on my twitter wall. El Xokas, a player, YouTuber, Twitcher or whatever, who has a million followers, praises a friend of his, he says, a “trick”: not drinking while they – we – got up to the rails to “control the situation” and make everything easier . certainly. Submit, do take our word for it. We do not consider ourselves equal, given full rights. Ignore our consent and our violation, go.

A propagandist friend, who has to campaign for an alert on the provision of chemicals to the government of an autonomous Hispanic community, asked me for advice to get a clear perspective. Serving the chemicals again became a first-class move as a result of the many reported cases in bars in Madrid. I discussed it a bit with my colleagues Andrea Momoto and Iranzo Varela and we gave them our opinion. Focus on them and not us, and scare us with the “Be careful because there are very bad men out there who can choose you to introduce you.” Don’t spread sexual terror. Focus on them and tell them not to rape.

Focus on them letting them know it’s cool to arouse an almost inactive body. Focus on them telling them that submission is not just a deliberate purchase of property to override our will. And serving also waits for us to be drunk, so that we can be easier. Introducing too is bending over with shots while drinking smoothies, Xocas, and waiting for your moment. Serving is also when you do it with your girlfriend, who is drunk but you don’t care. Submission is all that, gentlemen, let’s see if it gets into your head.

Focus on them letting them know it’s cool to arouse an almost inactive body. Focus on them telling them that submission is not just a deliberate purchase of property to override our will.

We have to focus on them so we don’t laugh at them, so we don’t smile and shake our heads and say “what a couple”. So as not to praise your rapist friend’s trick. We have to focus on them to be clear about what oppression is and what rape is, and when we see it, stop them and not allow it. They have to focus and understand that you are violating. And they stopped doing that.

Alcohol is also a form of submission and having sex with someone you are subject to is rape. And it’s not about a very bad man who pours drugs into women’s drinks when they are confused – and that, of course, also exists. This is a more common and mundane story, and it is the story of all those men who do not take drugs or encourage drinking. They are just waiting. And then they don’t see that this is also chemical submission. This is also rape.

This is a more common and mundane story, and it is the story of all those men who do not take drugs or encourage drinking. They are just waiting. And then they don’t see that this is also chemical submission. This is also rape.

In the same conversation as my colleagues and I were talking about the prospect of a good campaign warning against chemical submission, we were talking about an idea that’s been on our minds for a long time: women position themselves as bait for rapists at night to catch them, to take revenge, with a group waiting to squat when they bite. Yes, as in a particular movie I won’t explicitly mention to avoid spoilers. Similar to that movie but in a group, not alone, because, as Eranzu Varela says, the heroine fails because her strategy is not collective, but individual.

Perhaps it would be smarter – and less dangerous, and less stressful, what job they give us – to simply start spreading the rumor that there are feigning drunken aunt commandos to catch rapists. Only with the idea, if it’s so strong, we can get them to hesitate–make you hesitate–before raping someone exposed to alcohol.

just in case. In case you are not as drunk as you look. In case you get caught. be cerfull. Don’t rape.

TVM

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